. . . I long to go and be with Christ.  That would be far better for me,
Philippians 1:23  NLT

The Visitation, Tuesday, January 11, 2005,
Jeter Funeral Home, Friendswood, Texas

Order of Service
Wednesday, January 12, 2005, 10:00 a.m.
Heights Baptist Church*, Alvin, Texas

Message - Reverend Charles Easley and
      Reverend Kyle Roberts

I Can Only Imagine - Scott Bryant

I Can Only Imagine, By MercyMe
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When Time Stands Still
By Reverend Charles Easley

I have attended many funerals . . . older people . . .  babies . . . suicide . . . teens killed in auto wrecks.  My Dad.  Just last Friday a husband and wife killed in an auto wreck.  Had to tell someone of the death of their loved one.

Every funeral, for me, is a time when time just seems to stand still.  Listen . . . death is definitely another part of life.

Three Principles on How to Respond to Death

1.  Release Your Grief

Some think God wants everybody to go around all the time with a happy face.  Folks, life isnít always happy.  God doesnít expect you to be smiling all the time.

 God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted.  Matthew 5:4  NLT

Say to yourself . . . itís OK to grieve.  You have to face your feelings.  Donít repress your feelings, or push them down.  This is very important for those of you who are younger!  Tell God what you feel.

Oh, my people, trust in Him at all times.  Pour out your
heart to Him, for God is our refuge.
  Psalm 62:8 NLT

God wants to comfort you in a tragedy.

 The LORD is close to the broken hearted; He rescues
those who are crushed in spirit.
  Psalm 34:18  NLT

Iíve actually met some people that think it is wrong for Christians to cry at funerals.  Well if they were an active believer and are really in heaven, you donít have to cry for them!  But you can cry for yourself because you miss them!  Grief is a part of life!

2.  Refuse To Be Bitter

A TV preacher with cerebral palsy said, " I lost my mom and dad when  I was a little kid, and I got cerebral palsy."   He couldnít even speak very well.  And he said,  "The 11th commandment is this . . . 'Thou shalt not bellyache.'"

13If only you would prepare your heart and lift up your hands to him in prayer!  
You will forget your misery. It will all be gone like water under the bridge.
Job 11:13; 16 NLT

Whatís Godís will for me in crisis?  Itís that I be thankful, no matter what.  And you choose to focus on Godís goodness!

3.  Remember What's Important

Then he said, "Beware! Don't be greedy for what you don't have.
Real life is not measured by how much we own."
Luke 12:15  NLT 

Donít confuse your net worth with your self worth.  Donít confuse your possessions with your purpose in life.  Donít confuse your position with what youíre living for.  A manís life does not consist of his title or possessions.

After all, we didn't bring anything with us when we came into the world,
and we certainly cannot carry anything with us when we die.
I Timothy 6:7  NLT

If thatís true Ė focus on what matters.

Many of you already know Jesus Christ.   Some of you are seekers. 

If you look for me in earnest, you will find me when you seek me.
Jeremiah 29:13  NLT

God wants you to be a seeker.  The wise men of Christmas were the first seekers.  Wise men still seek Christ. 

What Will You Choose?

By Reverend Kyle Roberts

You have to decide, Will I let this make me a bitter person or a better person?  It's your choice, but you can't have both.  Happiness is a choice.



Look after each other so that none of you will miss out on the special
favor of God. 
Watch out that no bitter root of unbelief rises up among
you, for whenever it springs up, many are corrupted by its poison.
Hebrews 12:15  NLT


Bitterness will not only take root in your own life and cause destruction, but it will also poison others.  Blaming others will not solve anything.  How do you keep from being bitter when you lose someone you love?

 Accept What Cannot Be Changed

For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways
 higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.
Isaiah 55:9  NLT 

Faith is not pretending everything is great in your life.  What is faith?

It is the confident assurance that what we hope for is going
to happen. It is the evidence of things we cannot yet see.
Hebrews 11:1 NLT 

Everything is not great . . . There are bad things in the world.   And bad things do happen to good people.  But faith is facing the facts without getting discouraged.  Thereís very little in the life that you can control.  In fact . . . he things that are the most important are the most uncontrollable

  Focus On Whatís Left, Not Whatís Lost

You have some wonderful memories of Monique!  You still have family around you.  You still have friends around you.  God still loves you.  Be thankful for what is left.  Focus on Godís goodness

No matter what happens, always be thankful,
for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 NLT 

Burial, South Park Cemetery, Pearland, Texas

My Friend, Monique
By Rhonda Lindquist-Vasek

Good morning!  My name is Rhonda Lindquist-Vasek.  When Erica asked me if I would say a little about her mother today, I felt honored and scared. How was I going to condense a lifetime of memories into just a few minutes?  Then, I thought I could talk really, really fast, or I could just share with you why Monique was so important to me.

I met Monique in 8th grade at Alvin Junior high.  Our friendship began to grow.  With each stage of life, where everything was so unknown and new and even awkward, I knew I had someone to go through those times with.  I canít share with you, all of the things the we went thru from our childhood together, because we got into trouble for some of them. (I am glad that Nell and Rabbit were so patient with us.)  But they were lessons learned.  Life  lessons that helped us to become who we are today. I would not change a thing.

We were there for each otherís wedding day, as a  matter of fact, Monique and John were the only ones who knew that David and I secretly got married. I remember changing many of John-Johnís diapers.  I eventually moved away, and Monique tried several times to contact me to tell me she was sick.  I was so wrapped up in my own life, that I did not hear her.  But she never gave up on our friendship.  She was persistent and about seven years ago, we picked up where we left off.  It was like it was only yesterday that we had seen each other.

I admired her strength and determination.  She proved that no matter what the circumstances, quitting is not an option.  Excuses are unacceptable.  Monique has a beautiful soul, and she could find something good in everyone.  She tried not focus on the negative things or how cruel ignorant people can be. Her priority was her beautiful children, John-John and Erica, and their future.  She fought and worked harder than anyone I know to attain her goals.  She taught us all that life is precious and short and you must pick yourself up and live it. Monique left each one of us with something special.  I take comfort in knowing that she had faith and is with her Lord.  I will still miss her deeply. Thank you for letting me share with you.

Heights Baptist Church

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